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December 09, 2017 @02:10 pm
Jesa Ocon
JESA OCON What is the ultimate solution to preventing child abuse within the home? NOV 30, 3:39PM EST
December 09, 2017 @02:07 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK Education. If you educate children to recognize abuse they will tell you not only when they see it at home, but also from what they hear from their friends. I taught this in public school for years till the system reduced the classes to teaching about state tests. Many children came to me, telling their tales of abuse. By law, I was only allowed to report what was said to the counselor. I still counselled the children as often as they would come to me. Public school laws only allow the counselor to contact the division of child services, who rarely did anything at all to help the children. Many children were sent away because they told the truth. Others were put on so many medications that they couldn’t remember their own name. In order to truly prevent child abuse, the entire system must be changed. The education system, the judicial system and even the way we teach our own children. Teach them not only to recognize abuse, but how to report it and how to fight back. Every child needs self defense classes. Many will say that they don’t need to fight, but their mind quickly changes when they are attacked. If you teach defense correctly, the child only uses it for defense and to promote strength and confidence. Most abuse is by the hands of family members. Teach your children to recognize the signs of abuse in others, so all can be saved. Once compassion is taught, the children will save each other. This is my dream and why I am so passionate in my mission. NOV 30, 7:31PM EST
December 09, 2017 @02:06 pm
Nicole Hatfield
NICOLE HATFIELD What is your best practice to control the PTSD effect on you every day? NOV 30, 1:44PM EST
December 09, 2017 @02:05 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK I talk to myself. ") Yes, I know it sounds weird, but it helps to keep the negative thoughts at bay. Whenever your thoughts seem to attack you, saying that Your ugly, stupid, worthless, nobody cares for you. You have to stop them immediately. Confront those thoughts, tell yourself that they lie and aren’t true. Remind yourself that you’re a good person. Often, I tell myself that I’m a child of God and therefor stronger that these hateful thoughts. Its constant reminders that you must practice every day to keep yourself positive. My 3rd book, Blessed will be out at the beginning of 2018. It is full of self help remedies to help you live a successful, happy life while living with the disorder. If you'd like you can go to my website and add your email to be notified as soon as its released. NOV 30, 3:24PM EST
December 09, 2017 @02:04 pm
Ashley Gates
ASHLEY GATES You have such a collection that can arouse curiosity. What does it take to roundup such titles? NOV 30, 1:32PM EST
December 09, 2017 @02:04 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK My titles all stem from personal experience and heart felt belief. I really did believe I was cursed and crazy. Through the book Crazy, narcissist were drawn to me like flies to honey. Though I would leave one, there was always another knocking at my door. So was born, Crazy, PTSD and the Narcissist Love Cycle. I called Cursed, A Different Kind of PTSD, because when I speak of the disorder, everyone always asks, were you in the military, to where I answer, no it’s a different kind of PTSD. The two are actually the same, but most people can’t relate to that analogy. Blessed won’t be released for another month at least and I am still unsure concerning the subtitle. When I do get in a rut or can’t decide, I usually pray for clarity and the answers seem to reveal themselves. “) NOV 30, 3:09PM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:59 pm
Heenal Parmar
HEENAL PARMAR What was your redemption and who saved you from that horrific situation? NOV 30, 11:47AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:59 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK I could say my Muay Thai Trainer saved me from the streets and that the birth of my son saved me from addiction. But honestly, the only person that can save you, is yourself. When you finally realize there is a problem and seek help, that is true redemption. Its the same with all mental disorders and addictions. There are always those out there who are willing to help find solutions, but it is up to you to let them. NOV 30, 2:53PM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:58 pm
Kyle Jensen
KYLE JENSEN What mental issues most victim will likely suffer post-trauma? NOV 30, 11:27AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:57 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK Post traumatic Stress Disorder is a combination of many disorders including anxiety, depression, borderline personality disorder, substance abuse, avoidance, dissociation and hypervigilance. Not all who experience trauma have all of these issues, as everyone handles trauma differently. There are also other issues that the brain releases to protect the victim including stages of denial and loss of memory. NOV 30, 2:20PM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:57 pm
Jacquiline Lourdes Coladilla
JACQUILINE LOURDES COLADILLA How do we help someone who seems to have some mental disorder but does not acknowledge his condition? Do we just avoid getting him agitated and just please him? NOV 30, 10:53AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:56 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK That is the worst thing you could do for him. When someone is suffering from a mental disorder, addiction or anything else that takes away from leading a healthy, natural life, the last thing you want to do is coddle them. This is usually referred to as an enabler. When someone is helped to stay in their unrealistic version of life, they have no incentive to return to the real world. You need to log everything that makes you believe they have a problem. Build a case to convince them that they need help. Research the different disorders you believe your friend might have and hold them to the same standards as everyone else. Treat them as you would anyone else, but also let them know you are there for them. When they see they will not be babied and need help, that’s when you can convince them to get help. The Book, Blessed, that reveals self help healing for mental illness will be released early 2018. Leave your email on my website and I will let you know as soon as its released. NOV 30, 1:46PM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:55 pm
Elena Risteska
ELENA RISTESKA What do you want to tell your readers about the disorder through the book? NOV 30, 10:52AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:55 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK I want to reach as many as possible who struggle with this disorder to say that you’re not alone. I know many go to doctors and counselors repeatedly with hopes of getting better, only to get worse and feel that nothing in the world will ever make them whole again. I want to show them they can be strong, confident and content. I struggled for so many years, feeling like a freak that had no support. Now I want to shout it to the world that you can be healed. Most tend to isolate themselves to avoid the triggers that could set them into panic and many doctors choose to medicate instead of educate. Therefor many do not get the help they need. With these books they can get what they need at a click of a button, without paying huge medical costs or spending countless hours telling their story. YOU CAN BE HELPED, THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT CARE ABOUT YOU AND YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!! The 1st book Cursed, tells of the abuse so others who identify may know they have a problem. The 2nd book Crazy, entails the effects the disorder had on my life and psyche for people who have made the same mistakes to figure out that they need treatment. The 3rd book Blessed, delivers the treatments and my happy ending to let people who suffer know, they can get through this. NOV 30, 1:31PM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:49 pm
Ricky Arnold
RICKY ARNOLD How hard was it for you to recall the events while adding details to the pages of your book? NOV 30, 10:51AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:48 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK Since I had been through so many counseling sessions and had many ongoing, abusive experiences, It wasn't as difficult for me to remember. There were four years I didn’t remember until I was 15 years old and in a group session, where another girl told a similar story. I still have a hard time remembering the year, 1983, because I was so heavily medicated. If you don’t recall all or part of your past, do not worry. This is a protection protocol your brain uses to protect you. My counselors brought back every single memory and it only made my life worse. Your best bet is to forgive whoever has harmed you, not for them, but for you. Stop trying to remember and instead change it in your mind. Let yourself remember the good times, focus on them and remember them instead of the trauma. The more you try to remember, the easier it can affect your thoughts and actions. If you read my second book, Crazy, you will see how this played out in my adult life and led to struggles that affected my entire family. NOV 30, 1:01PM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:47 pm
Ashiqur R
ASHIQUR R. How hard was it for you to recall the events while adding details to the pages of your book? NOV 30, 10:44AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:46 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK Since I had been through so many counseling sessions and had many ongoing, abusive experiences, It wasn't as difficult for me to remember. There were four years I didn’t remember until I was 15 years old and in a group session, where another girl told a similar story. I still have a hard time remembering the year, 1983, because I was so heavily medicated. If you don’t recall all or part of your past, do not worry. This is a protection protocol your brain uses to protect you. My counselors brought back every single memory and it only made my life worse. Your best bet is to forgive whoever has harmed you, not for them, but for you. Stop trying to remember and instead change it in your mind. Let yourself remember the good times, focus on them and remember them instead of the trauma. The more you try to remember, the easier it can affect your thoughts and actions. If you read my second book, Crazy, you will see how this played out in my adult life and led to struggles that affected my entire family. NOV 30, 1:01PM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:45 pm
Dale Cole
DALE COLE How do you protect your child while you're dealing with your own psychological problems? NOV 30, 10:31AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:45 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK Wonderful question and thank God you are thinking of the children at this time. So many people who deal with this stress are placed in another world by their own brain trying to protect the body from the stress they endure. I had a difficult time dealing with this myself, especially when all the doctors and counselors told me that the only way to heal was to constantly talk about the memories. Whatever you do, you have to keep those memories far away from your children. If you read my second book, it shows all the mistakes I made because of the fact that I wasn’t treated correctly. My third book reveals all the different ways you can treat yourself, without medicine and without paying a bunch of doctors who might not have your best interest at heart. You first have to deal with the negative voices or thoughts in your mind. Confront them as soon as they appear. Remind yourself that you are a good person, even when the voices seem to argue with you. You must be consistent in reminding yourself that you are a part of God and stronger that your past. That you are a better person now and want to be the best for your family. Practice calming techniques and exercise to keep the chemical balance of your mind positive. When you feel you are calm and in a positive state of mind, that is when you should spend the most quality time with your children. When you are in a negative mindset, it is easy to accidentally say things you don’t mean or let negative words or actions leak out. If you need more help don’t forget I’m just a message away. You can ask me anything, at any time on my blog on my website NOV 30, 12:47PM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:43 pm
Deborah Padilla
DEBORAHPADILLA What kind of strategies are you implementing to cover your holistic, psychological and spiritual approach? NOV 30, 10:20AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:42 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK Holistic is created by God, psychology is from within the mind of man, and spirituality is a connection between the two. When you implement only holistic treatments and foods into the body, the body is clean and available for treatment. Man made medicines and foods have been proven to toxify the system and create distractions to treatment. When you add psychologically proven treatments that are led by your spiritual beliefs, your own belief in the treatment becomes stronger and therefor more effective. “) NOV 30, 12:14PM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:41 pm
Scott Chandler
SCOTTCHANDLER Do you have connections to government agencies or NGOs who could possibly offer them assistance and protection? NOV 30, 10:12AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:40 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK Good question. I have been searching. At this time, I am trying to help a friend escape the government led, genocide in Pakistan and another friend in the Ukraine who has a horrendously abusive husband. I keep contacting different organizations that claim to help, but am having so much trouble. I pray for their safety and will continue to try. If you find an easier avenue, please leave a message on my website. When I find an avenue that works I will do the same for you. That’s the only way this world can heal, from everyone working together to help each other. God Bless your strength and cause. NOV 30, 12:05PM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:39 pm
James Kupps
JAMES KUPPS Which approach is more effective in treating clients with mental illness in general, a one on one session or a group session? NOV 30, 10:10AM
December 09, 2017 @01:38 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK It honestly depends on the counselor leading the sessions. Group sesssions are great for support but not to heal the true issue, if there is nothing said to heal. Many individual sessions are the same in the fact that they only want you to talk about the abuse or trauma, but dont prescribe treatments other than medication. If you can find a physician who prescribes cognitive treatments to help change negative thought patterns. That is the most effective. Thanks for your question ") NOV 30, 11:56AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:37 pm
Amu Lynch
AMY LYNCH How does the book writing help you in managing PTSD? NOV 30, 10:10AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:36 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK Thank you for your question. I wouldn't say that it helped at all. It was honestly one of the hardest things I've ever done. Every time I wrote of abuse, it was like I was there again. If I didn't truly believe that these novels could help others, I would have never written them. Many counselors will tell you that recanting your memories are helpful. I and many studies disagree. Also, if you have children and have been told all your life to speak of your memories. Your children will be affected negatively from the trauma staying fresh in your mind and inadvertently in your speech. The edition portion of the process had to be the hardest. Reading the abuse over and over. I was disturbed and haunted terribly for almost a month till I finally got back to myself with the daily treatments I prescribe to myself. NOV 30, 11:51AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:35 pm
Brittany Adams
BRITTANY ADAMS How did you manage to get over your traumatic childhood experience? NOV 30, 10:05AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:35 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK No one, really ever gets over childhood abuse, but there are many ways to heal from the mental illness it causes. I’ve been to many doctors, on many medications and dealt with the negative feelings, thoughts, and mindsets from the abuse. As a young adult, I thought I would never become "normal". It was only through my own research, experimentation and study, that I was able to help myself and now others. So many doctors treat the symptoms but not the real problem. For example, instead of actually dealing with the cause of your nightmares, doctors prescribe sleeping pills to take them away. The thoughts still haunt you during your waking hours, so it really doesn’t help. The nightmares are caused by the negative thoughts that haunt a person with PTSD on an every day basis. Daily exercises are needed to keep these thoughts at bay and with practice they become a part of your daily routine and easy to implement. There are also ways to meditate before sleep that help you to change your dreams to be less stressful, so you can have restful sleep without waking to horrible thoughts. Many counselors state that telling your story repeatedly will help to numb you from the pain. Many studies have revealed that it really keeps it and the pain, fresh in your mind. The problem with PTSD is the negative mindset and thought patterns that come from the trauma. My third book Blessed, coming early 2018 reveals many different treatments that you can do at home, to alleviate the negative thoughts and depression. These are just a couple of the ways I have helped myself and pray to help others NOV 30, 11:41AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:33 pm
Patrick Cortez
PATRICK CORTEZ Did you also join some healing meetings with support groups to help you manage your mental disorder? NOV 30, 10:04AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:32 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK Thank you for your question. Yes, I have attended group therapy, counseling, been put on many different medications and even been hospitalized in my youth. Everyone is different, and these things might work for others, but I can honestly say that none of it worked for me or anyone else I have interviewed. The only thing that helped me at all, that was prescribed by a physician, was exercise and martial arts to channel my anger. It is very difficult to find a Physician that truly understands this disorder and most, (not all), prescribe a one size fits all approach to healing that entails medication and constantly recalling the traumatic events. In the early years of psychology, they thought this type of treatment to be beneficial, but most studies now show it keeps the person from moving past the stress of the trauma. Group therapy is beneficial as a support group because those suffering from PTSD tend to isolate themselves. It would be even more beneficial if the group could discuss treatments instead of the trauma itself. NOV 30, 11:17AM
December 09, 2017 @01:30 pm
Marsha
MARSHA When PTSD is becoming popular, victims are mum of their situations because of intimidation. How can we reach out to them? NOV 30, 10:04AM EST
December 09, 2017 @01:30 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK Great question. ") That’s exactly why I have released my book trilogy in the way that I did. Since every case is different, and everyone learns in a different way, you must put the cause, effects and then treatments out there to reach the masses. There might be some who relate to the stories of my first book, that revealed the abuse. Others might understand the second book better, that displays the effects that plague everyday life as an adult living with the disorder. The final book delivers the treatments to those who finally realize their issue, or for friends and family members to use to help those still in denial. You have to understand that those living with PTSD go through many mental breakdowns throughout life, when they are not on the right track to recovery. I personally have experienced this, where everything seemed so normal, but my world was in complete chaos. It is actually a natural function of the brain to place you in denial when the stress in your life can cause you bodily harm. The brain shuts down many functions to protect itself and releases happy hormones like serotonin and dopamine. If you know someone in denial, please present them with the effects of PTSD and let them know you are there for them. When they finally wake up from their dream state, they will need you to guide them. My third book of the trilogy will be out early 2018 and entails many treatments that can be done at home. it is so difficult to find a doctor that really understands the problem enough to truly help, so I made it to where anyone can get help at any time, without paying ridiculous amounts of money. NOV 30, 10:39AM
December 09, 2017 @01:28 pm
Nikita
NIKITA How long have you been a personal trainer? NOV 30, 9:11AM
December 09, 2017 @01:27 pm
Michelle Lynn Back
MICHELLE LYNN BACK I've trained people in many forms of physical fitness including martial arts, for over 20 years. I began as a nutritionist in 2005 when I graduated with honors for exercise science and Nutrition. I diligently research and keep up with the times regarding holistic care that actually works for each individuals body type. I have also lived, experimented, researched and graduated programs in psychology to where I have written novels to help other deal with and heal from abusive situations and trauma. Thank you so much for your question ") NOV 30, 9:23AM EST

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